EP117: Meeting Your Deepest Pain; The Only Way Out is Through

In this honest and spacious exploration, we gently walk into the heart of our deepest pain—not to fix it, but to finally see it clearly.

So much of what we carry isn’t about what happened, but about the story we’ve told ourselves about it. A story that quietly whispers, “You’re not enough,” or “Something is wrong with you.” And when that misunderstanding goes unexamined, it distorts how we see everything.

In this talk, I invite you to slow down and ask the real question: What’s actually going on here?
Because the only way out is through—and the pain you’re feeling may not be what you think it is.

Together, we look at:

• How emotional pain is often a misunderstanding, not a moral failure.

• Why our suffering continues when we try to outrun what’s actually true.

• The role of fear, perceived inadequacy, and the false self-image we protect.

• How meeting pain with honesty and clarity invites a kind of forgiveness that doesn’t need blame.

• And how, beneath it all, there is only love waiting to be seen and remembered.

This is not about adding more to your spiritual to-do list. It’s about stopping for a moment… and being willing to see.

Watch when you're ready to meet yourself.

Chapters

• 00:33 💬 Hanging Out with Honesty
  Setting the tone—gentle, slow, and real
• 03:01 🔍 What's Really Going On?
  Turning toward our pain instead of avoiding it
• 05:02 😣 The Unseen Filter of Pain
  How unhealed wounds shape how we see the world
• 10:02 🧠 Circumstance vs. Story
  Your pain isn’t from what happened—it’s from what you believe it means
• 13:01 🚨 Pain as a Messenger
  Emotional pain is an alarm calling us to clarity
• 17:00 🕊️ Forgiveness Through Truth
  Letting go of blame by seeing what's actually true
• 22:00 🪞 Perception, Power & Responsibility
  Your pain isn't theirs to fix—it’s yours to understand
• 27:00 🎭 The Image of Self
  Why ego resists vulnerability and clings to control
• 32:00 🙈 The Fear of Being Seen
  How we hide behind an identity to feel safe
• 36:00 🧍 Just Be You
  The radical invitation to stop performing and start being
• 42:00 💗 Returning to Love
  Healing as a sacred return to the truth of what you are
• 45:00 👐 Holding Space for Healing
  The power of being vulnerable—with yourself and others
• 47:28 🧠 Real Forgiveness Is Seeing Clearly
  No one is to blame for the story in your mind